what it takes to be a man.

cock and balls. generally, thats my idea. well, at least for males. but then theres the transies that have both the private parts of either gender, which doesnt really apply here.

i've heard many many outrageous things that make a man. for one its hair. i am someone who has a lot of hair (nisa...). not trying to expose myself or show manliness, but it relates to the topic. facial hair for me is at 14. some people have lots of hair. they either get laughed at or, as crazy as it may seem, get awed at. there are 2 split groups in my circle of friends for this case, being the one poking and the one amazed. the group that 'admires', claim that i'm a man. one worthy being called as a result of the facial and body hair that is present on me."wah, omar i salute you. im ashamed of my shortcoming. you are truly a man, for what you hold, hair, shows it all." it is a puzzling ideology for me as, i can daresay that certain females have hair, body hair. so does that make them men? "if you got chest hair, only then are you a man." the woman looks down on her hairy bossom, and is infuriated by what is shared. hair is there for everyone, unless God's structured you uniquely. both man and woman possess hair on head and body. it does not make one man with HAIR. i have a feeling that if we follow such a way, i'd be a demi-god, and more hairy ones are those we bow to. we serve you, o hairy one. body hair appears at puberty. some at early times, late or none at all. fret not, hairless ones, for you are a man. as long as you have the sexual essentials and, well... if you do what you feel is of man-ness.
(pardon, no such crap-ass word exists)

cyrus, a friend of mine, is a late bloomer. we used to call him hairless or nerd or anything that relates to lacking of what is shown after puberty. a few months back we noticed the growth of leg hair, and everyone welcomed him to the 'MEN'S club'. "wow you're a man now, eh?" one of the guys voiced. but instead of feeling welcomed he recalled and said "oh, so i've been a pussy all this while LAH." everyone cracked. not that we said it, he declared so himself. no one ever called you a pussy cyrus. well... no one every called you a hairless pussy.

enough of what is countless in me. the next thing i hear that takes to be a man, is the stick. the more of it you do, the more the man you are. it is a form of sociability, strangely. when a hot girl in sight, some guys whip out a stick and starts puffing, in hopes that it will be a form of attraction and the cert of a man. foolish they be, as every suck, is a second closer to death. every second of life is too, realistically. but this would be a catalyst for a certain way you can kill yourself and the people around you. some daresay, 'at least i'd die of heart failure than any other disease. -.- i dont get the point, you still suffer and die. its no different concept. not having cigarettes does not mean you're a man either. these sticks doesnt define anything. it may give an impression that this certain person with a box of cigarette is bad. but then you never know. all i wish to say is, it projects an unhealthy lifestyle, not the definition of a man or whether you're bad-assed or not. and we witness more women with cigarettes nowadays too. smoking is a mere bad habit, no such form of a declaration. it does not even put a puzzle piece in a person to show what kind of person one is. a priest can smoke regardless of who he is. but undeniably, its a bad habit. nonetheless it does not make one a man to have marlboro in his hands. but its even funnier, as it is now depending on the type of cigarette. the different types also ranks a person. lets not make this turn to a health lecture shall we?

a little boy would be exposed to pornography, duly at the age of 11-12. he would feel good, a sense of 'maturity', newly inscripted to his dictionary. at the age of 13 or 14 he would have a go at relationships, 'puppy love' in play. even so, it will be accompanied by the images of sex and what he considers 'making love'. by 16 he would want to have a go at what he has learnt from his exposure, because he feels he is 'mature' enough. and if he's lucky enough, nothing bad would happen i the long run. he would tell his best buddies of his plans with his girl in the night. and the next day everyone would go "wah, you man already ah". everyone would look up to him and be amazed at his superiority from his actions. little did he know that it was a threesome in his one night stand with his girlfriend. the devil matures him, coaxing him into actions that would enlist him a man.

a boy could also, be 'open' and 'spontaneous' with a girl, thinking that it shows the world the man he is. whether both hands clap or not, to him it proves the 'guts' and 'balls' he has as a man. i would say this is one big lost sense of maturity. sex does not declare maturity. sex does not declare manhood. there is a time for it, but who is anyone to affirm the time? it happens at the will and desire of two people, whether or not they know the consequences of who they are and where they stand. sex is responsibility for yourself and the other half. it does not make you a man when you 'break through'. having sex with friends through dares or labels, maybe its 'okay', we're friends. its that mentality.

i understand that there is a woman in every man. it does not mean the other half, but the feature in you that makes you who you are. such of this feature are long hair, piercings, the liking or closeness of feminity. pink, understandably favoured by women, is not her colour. it also does not mean 'it takes a man to wear pink'. colours are universal and everyone is free to use it. these things do not seperate men from women. it is in one's heart, to decide the things in favour of that person be it colour, dressing or gender. a male who has piercings, wears pink with a hand bag who is very feminine, in my eyes is completely overlooked to anything and goes back to the fact that he is male and hence a man.

gay culture has beeen turned from a 'no-no' in the earlier years to an accepted way of life in current times. there are the gym-going, muscular hunky loveables and there are the soft, feminine and lady-like men who both can be gay at will. both are still men. it is just men loving men, it does not turn them to weirdo women-wannabes. it is, once again, in one's self. God's moulding of men is by his choice and we, His creations too should accept them for who they are. and for the record, guys who stick with guys to look like men, you look more like gay than gays themselves. just... a reality check.

there are other things that are seen in this world to be declared a man, like sports, dressing, vehicles, ways and whatnots. men have this habit of accusations and denaming who is what and who is not. at the end of this entry it just takes two balls and a stick to call you a man, and not what you do. just be who you are and be sure of what you are. that requires them stick an' nuts.